In the 2015 Women’s World Cup Final, Carli Lloyd scored three spectacular goals in 15 minutes. She was the captain of the team that day. With 10 minutes left in the game, Abby Wambach came on to the field. Abby had been the captain of the team in the past and had been the best player in the world in the past, but now she was at the end of her career. Carli Lloyd went over to her and gave Abby the captain’s armband for the end of the game. Abby held the World Cup trophy after the game. Carli stepped back to allow Abby this moment.
To me, Carli Lloyd set a great standard of leadership not only for her team, but also for the millions of people who watched that game. Without saying a word, she said, “This effort is a team effort. Everyone from the past and the present is important. This is not about me.”
Venus Williams lost to her sister, Serena, in a hard-fought tennis match at the 2015 Wimbledon tennis tournament. Venus is older than Serena, and at one time in the past Venus was winning all the championships and Serena was considered to be the second best player in the family. After she lost, Venus hugged Serena for a long time and clearly encouraged her for her future matches at Wimbledon.
To me, Venus Williamsn set a great standard of leadership not only for this tournament, but for the millions of people who watched that moment. Without saying a word, she said, “It’s important to support others and encourage them even when the moment is not ours to be the victor.”
Two remarkably real moments in leadership less than 24 hours apart. W can learn so much from both of them.
My sister Cathy’s birthday is July 2nd. She passed away on April 23rd, 2015 after an 18-month battle with cancer. In honor of her birthday and in honor of the enormously positive impact she had on my life, I’m dedicating my next article to her.
It’s called “A Letter to My Sister, Cathy, on How to Live an Excellent Life.” I hope you gain value from it for your own life.
Here is the link: http://thecoughlincompany.com/cc_vol14_3.php.
Take your concerns and complaints and put them into a bucket. Decide when you are going to address those concerns and to whom you’re going to discuss them with. And then only go into that bucket during those times and with those people.
Don’t let your concerns and complaints spill over into every conversation you have with every person at work, at home, and in your neighborhood. This spillage can really damage relationships. People will want to stay away from you.
It’s unhealthy to never address your concerns and complaints. It’s also unhealthy to pour them on every person you come across all day long.
I encourage you to read a new book by Sam Horn called Got Your Attention?: how to create intrigue and connect with anyone.
It is filled with practical ways to gain and keep another person’s attention. We live in a distracted world, and it’s essential to be intriguing. This book is 190 pages of direct, specific ways to get another person’s attention quickly and keep it for the long term.
This book has sizzle and steak. The sizzle consist of easy-to-remember approaches like “Ask ‘Did You Know’ Questions”, “Show Them The Fish”, and “Keep It Brief or They’ll Give You Grief”. It also is packed with useful and memorable quotes.
The steak is that it provides the reader with a repeatable process for getting the attention of your buyer immediately and then keeping that relationship over the long term.
I think Got Your Attention? is an extremely valuable and practical book for anyone wanting to improve the direction and sustained success of their organization.
Here’s a link to my newest article. This one is about improving a person’s imagination. Hope it’s useful for you.